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Morning Creator, here’s a little “Pow, right in da kissah” to go with your morning coffee. You know why I love this quote? Because it puts the onus for my feelings on me, right where they belong. 

Remember it’s NEVER about the other guy, it’s about your reaction to the other guy, always. And the best part is, you can change how you feel/react about anything by changing your habitual thoughts and attitude. While conversely, you will NEVER successfully change another person. 

So when you feel hurt, get pissed, or react in a negative way toward a fellow human or situation remember, this is a golden opportunity to enact a personal upgrade, lay new pipes, and create new habits that serve. Listen, reacting is a knee jerk response, but not giving a shit and rolling with life, now that’s how The Gods Play! Haha. See you on Mt. Olympus…😎~*


Top of The Morning Creator! I have a question for you. What’s your favorite Abraham Process for moving energy? Mine is the good ole Focus Wheel! I love the entire process, because usually when I remember/think to implement it, I am needing an up tick on my emotional scale. I also like to do it out loud, usually when I’m driving the car and I find that when my energy begins to speed up, so does my car LOL! 

I LOVE that as a “Feeler” of energy I can pin point the moment when I begin the ascent from what felt like stasis, into movement. Relief courses through me immediately, and it’s a cause for celebration, which begins the momentum up, up, and away! 

Don’t forget Darlings all the tools we have amassed in our Quiver of Life! When you’re not feeling so-great, or just want more good feelings – reach back, pull out and let loose the arrow that will pierce the heaven’s with your wanting, your new story, your utmost desires! We have the tools, we just have to remember to use them~*

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Haha! Right Creator? And my answer to this? Thank The Gods!

What’s planning anyway but our logical mind attempting to find solace in a pre-ordained route. Which is fine, just don’t become rigid and inflexible in the process. Take a bead, formulate a dream or two, or ten and then allow your Inner Being to handle the GPS coordinates.

I have consistently found that when I let go of The Wheel of Control (which is an illusion anyway) that’s when I soar! When new possibilities abound. When my life goes from black and white to full on screaming technicolor with a soundtrack!

When you abdicate Control not only will you look and feel better, your route to your Kingdom of Fun and Fulfillment will most probably resemble a snail trail; all switchbacks, spirals, turning this way and that! But that my darlings has a two-fold purpose: First, It’s the road of Least Resistance that your Inner Being is calling you toward. And secondly, It’s where the fun is!!! That’s right, the fun, the merriment, the unexpected cool stuff and people, the WOWs of life.

You’ve heard it many times from many people – Life IS The Journey not the destination. Because, simply put, once you arrive at your destination, it’s time to once again fire up The Millennium Falcon and prepare for the next leg of Life’s Unending, Eternal Quest – To boldly and unabashedly go forth in search of MORE!

And when you do let go and relax Up and Into This Knowing, it’s akin to going to the movies and watching the previews; you get so caught up in them that you forget what movie you came to see. That’s how I feel about life. If you allow the previews to float in and take you on a journey, it won’t even matter what your destination is because you’re having so much fun along the way!

So Darlings of Everything Good and Sweet, let’s make 2017 The Year Of The Righteous Journey! Let’s Dream without Boundaries and How-To’s. Let’s cease explaining ourselves. And let’s not give a rip what anyone thinks as we turn to our faithful first officer, our wingman, our Inner Being and say, “Warp Speed Mr. Sulu!”

Up, Up, and Away Creator. Happiest of New Year’s to You. Engage…~*

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Creator, this is your Homie speaking… How’s things in your quadrant of the Universe? Are you flying high? Are you Manifesting Your Dreams and mostly Flowing Supreme Feelings of Purpose and Pleasure like the God you are? Hmmm, not really huh?

In order to Allow the biggest most delicious Experiences and Opportunities to flow into our lives, we must challenge ourselves, constantly and consistently, to keep resistance at a minimum. Now I’m not talking about a strenuous effort here. To the contrary, I am speaking to the notion of Focus and Consistency of Positive Thought. That’s it. No bench pressing, no 101 Sun Salutations, no marathons; just shifting and up-leveling your Thoughts and Power of Focus. That’s all it takes to create a life that will make your toes curl.

Since I’ve been playing in Abe Land and inculcating these powerful Teachings and How-To Methods, it’s become clear to me that complacency ain’t gonna get things accomplished. “Half-Assing It” is not going to help you strike gold. And certainly operating with the same old judgements and sloppy thinking, will only keep you in stasis.

So what’s a Creator who wants to Create more efficiently and abundantly do? Oh so glad you asked. You Focus, that’s what! Focus is your SuperPower! And You Challenge Yourself by saying things like:

-Today I’m going to think more positively than not!

-Today I will milk The Positive Feelings that flow through me, keeping them going for as long as possible.

-Today I will notice when my thoughts stray to the dark side (judgement of myself and others) and reel myself in to Focus on a merrier thought or vision.

-Today I will have fun with all of this ’cause I can’t get it wrong and I’ll never get it done!

-Today I’ll laugh out loud, I’ll be irreverent. I’ll create my own path. I’ll break the rules. I’ll color outside the lines. I’ll throw caution to the wind. I won’t give a rip what anyone thinks of me. I’ll act kooky, crazy, unabashedly free.

-Today I’ll flow and project my most authentic and aligned self, to myself.

-Today I’ll become a World Class Appreciator, Appreciating everything I set my eyes on or Focus my thoughts toward!

It’s that simple and it’s up to you to make it easy, which like everything, comes with Practice, Practice, Practice.

So I’m off now, ’cause I love Challenging myself to fly higher, Create more boldly, download the genius of The Universe more consistently, and just get better and better and better at being the Most Badd Ass Badd, Leading-Edge Creatrix in the whole darn Universe. Haha! Shit’s About to Get Real My Homies, so hang on and get ready for the ride  of your life…~*

edmund-tarbell-girl-writingI just finished listening to the video included below, which answered An Asking I have had for some time about getting on a better vibrational footing around and with my former husband. In the recap, Abraham was speaking about how we put people we no longer want to be with (especially past lovers, husbands, wives etc.) into the Ex Category. I have never referred to Scott, my former husband, as my ex, because it never felt good. And knowing what I Know, when you attempt to EX-Out anything, it only causes it to remain more firmly in a funky feeling vibration. This has been a wanting of mine for a time, in that I desire all of my relationships, past and present, to shine vibrationally and I find that when I am around Scott, I feel a bit off. So Abe to the rescue!!

They’re suggestion to us is that we take all of those that we no longer are married too or dating, but might still harbor a wee resentment toward or feel an awkwardness around, and put them into a Pile of Appreciation.

I have transcribed this wee excerpt, because I wanted to herald it for myself and I have addressed it to my former husband the father of our daughter, Lily…

Dear Former Husband…

“You were there when I needed you. You were a vibrational match to that which I was. You were part of the contrast that helped me to identify what I want. My present and future experience is what it was because of my relationship with you. It was never your job to be a specific way so that I could feel better. We all were doing the best that we knew how to do as we went along the way. I love the fact that we had this relationship and I believe we will always have a relationship. And from now on. I am not going to let my thoughts about you, hurt my feelings anymore. I’M NO LONGER GOING TO DISRESPECT MYSELF BY TWISTING MY THOUGHTS ABOUT YOU AND MAKING MYSELF FEEL BAD ABOUT THEM!” (My favorite part, hence the caps!)

Wow! Right?! Feels so darn good. Off I go to play around in this juicy new Vibration I just created! This is what being a Deliberate Creatrix Feels Like!! Aligned and Allowing! All for one and one for all! Tally Ho Homies…~*

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Greetings Darlings, Well I’m on fire today and I had to share, share, share this delicious, new-to-me-technique of boosting up my momentum, my inner fire, my fun with You, my Enchanting Cadre of Co-Creative Geniuses!

It all began yesterday with a wee meme I read; in a nutshell, it was about acknowledging what you dig and leaving the rest behind! We Aber’s know all about this little nugget of info, but then through the course of my day, I took it even farther…

…Why not use these delightful moments of Contrast to boost our energy and fuel our Inner Creativity and Knowing?

Think about it, as Abe constantly reminds us, “Without Contrast There Would Be NO EXPANSION!” That means that CONTRAST wields mucho power! It’s the Energy That Fuels UNIV-FUCKING-VERSAL EXPANSION for Christmas’ Sake! So how about we hop aboard this Rocket Ship of Momentum and use it to our advantage? Rather than just having a Contrasting Moment and using it to Pivot Towards What Feels Good, why don’t we apply an upgrade by Acknowledging and Appreciating Its Presence; thereby giving it more heft and weightiness, and use it to propel ourselves deeper into the V?

If we get into the Divine Habit of Appreciating Contrast when it surfaces, becoming more aware of it; then it becomes our Ally, Our Comrade, Our Buddy. In addition, by acknowledging its place as a Superior Player in our Lives, we become more adept at catching it early and not wallowing in the pooh for even a nano-second!

After using this Booster around Contrast all day yesterday, when I arrived home, I had a moment where I felt resistance come a creepin’ to my back door! The minute I felt it, I had a moment of, “Nooooo! I don’t want you here!” But then, I heard the guidance that My Non-Physical Cadre Of Mighty Helpers downloaded to me, and it wasn’t about using the traffic cop signal of stop! (which we know only invites more of what we don’t want), but rather, to welcome it! Welcome Resistance, has she gone mad? Haha! Perhaps, but I took it as a signal of where I was vibing.  And if we want to keep Vibing at the Level of The Gods, these moments of early detection are our touchstone to a SourceLike Level  of Awareness and Creativity! Rather than get sucked in, we turn it on it’s head!

So I said to that sly visitor known as Resistance, “Wow! I love feeling you. Because by feeling you, it means I am in touch with my emotions, like a Boss. So guess what Ole Man Resistance (sorry fellas, a old worn out cliche I know, but here it works 🙂 ), we are going to add some fuel to your visit. I am going to use YOU as my Booster Into More, More Upliftment, More Understanding of Me, More Intuitive Awareness of Where I Vibe on a moment to moment basis.” And let me tell you, I went Rocketing so deep into My Vortex that it took my breath away! Haha!

I’m a child of The City of Manhattan and growing up there, I used to see adventurous boys “catch a ride” on the back bumper of busses cruising down the street! They were having a ball, and I thought how fun it would be to have the courage to hop aboard and take a ride. Well, NOW I know what that feels like. There are always two busses going by, The One That Takes You Upstream, to The Land of Where Nothing That You Want Resides, and then there’s the one that takes you DownStream, to all your Desires, Hopes, Dreams, Endless Possibilities, Creations, RendezVous, and the like.

So Creator, when next you are visited by Contrast or Resistance, how about you reach out and grab onto the back of da Bus that’s heading your way, toward More! How about you acknowledge this delightful moment of self-awareness where you made the conscious decision to turn this moment around. And then for the capper, how about you say to The Universe, “Hey, Check Me Out!! I so got this! I am a G, I am a God, I have come to this place where I can instantly manifest more through my choices! Oh, and hit the gas, I want to go faster!”

Now that’s what Living, Thriving, Abounding on The Leading-Most Edge of Thought is all about! I am triple darn sure that’s how we thought we’d do this gig before we landed here. We can either let someone else drive our Interstellar Ship/Bus/Vortex, or we can take Control and steer her towards the rising sun, every darn time!

I am taking my leave now, time to go for a walk with my delightful dog and feel all that I can feel about this incredible life on this calm, misty, autumn morning! But, before I go, might I just say that I appreciate you, my cadre of homies, more than words can convey! I LOVE sharing what I am learning, day by day, moment by moment with all of you! It gives me more delight than words can convey! But hey, that’s not going to stop me from trying. All for one and one for all! I am, Constance Todd Smith, over and out…~*

Your Job Creator Is Not To Fix The World

You only have one job Creator, do you know what that is? It isn’t to fix the world, ’cause it’s not broken. It isn’t to fix your friend, kid, lover because we ALL live in a Universe that Provides, Distributes, Flows Connectivity/Love Equally, to us all. Tapping into that flow is the job of the individual, period! There are no understudies, body doubles, or stand-ins available.

No matter your income, social standing, educational level, age, sex, country, city, or abilities, Divine Guidance is always available and flows forth to each of us with Grace, Equanimity, and Magnanimity – Constantly! Source, Your Inner Being, NEVER sleeps, gets tuckered out or doesn’t show! Ever!

So how do you “get your fair share?” Easy… Line Up Creator!! Not at the grocery store check out, not at the car wash; rather, Line The Heck Up at the Nexus Point where You (physical human you) and YOU (Mighty Source Non-Physical all the time connected and flowing, Party Animal YOU) Meet, Coalesce, Dance, Make Love and Merriment You, dwells! What our Teachers’ Abe call The Sweet Spot of Alignment.

You Know The Processes! You understand The Law of Attraction. You Know down to the tips of your toes, how to Tune-In, Tune-Up and Flow like The Genius Creator/Creatrix You are!

So can this life ALWAYS be better? Heck yes it can! Reaching for More is our middle name! So how about Right Here, Right Now You do just that? Reach for the stars and when you have them firmly in your grasp, reach again, and again, and again! It’s Your Time To Live! You feel me Homie? Can I get a witness? Haha! Lordy, I hope so…😎~*

Sometimes I want to be alone

Oh Oh Oh, this is sooo me! I Adore Being Alone! Really! Always have and by the looks of things, always will! I am an only child, born of 2 only children in The City of Manhattan. My life was always solitary, which might seem counter to being a City Kid, but knowing what I know, you can be more blissfully alone in a City than anywhere else on the planet.

There was a code when I was growing up in NYC that you give each person a wide berth, no unusually long eye-contact (more than a nano second), and no prying into other people’s affairs. After all, that’s what the doorman was for haha! Rather, You Kept Your Own Counsel and that my friends is where the power lies.

Keeping your own counsel. Hmmm, what does that mean anyway? To me it means seeing how I feel about a particular subject before jumping into a “group on” about it. It means honoring the tacit arrangement that although we are living on top of one another, literally, we can give each other privacy and space. It means keeping my opinions to myself! Bingo, there’s the big one, KEEPING MY OPINIONS TO MYSELF!

Through the constant and consistent practice I have adopted of inculcating The Teaching’s of Abraham into the marrow of my bones, I have come to the delightful realization that my opinion is just that, mine. And that my way of seeing something is again, my way and perhaps not at all germane to the person whom I’m focused upon.

Do I know their story? Do I have a clue about what they’ve lived, their desires, their gaps, their dreams, anything? NO! Not even my own kid! I don’t have a bloody clue, ’cause guess what else I know? That sometimes I don’t even know what’s best for Me, so why oh why would I take my Super Power of Focus and use it frivolously? Why not turn that Focus back on me? How am I feeling? What’s brewing and stewing in my life? What do I want more of? Less of? How do I want to Create today?

Although now my home is situated smack dab in a suburban landscape, I still live by my NYC code of honoring everyone’s space. It’s in my blood and now that I KNOW the benefits of Keeping My Own Counsel, or as my father Clyde used to say to me when I would weigh in on a subject, “Tend to your knitting back there!” (Usually it was when I was doing hard time stuck in the back seat of my dad’s sport’s car while he smoked cigars and my mom her cigs! Haha)

So Creator, how about this? Let’s make today a Tend To Your Knitting Day. Tend to Your Vibration Day. Tend to Your Wants and Desires Day and leave other people to tend to theirs? I’m thinking that’s a genius plan.

I’m off now to knit one, pearl two on this delightful day. And if I drop a stitch or two, so be it. I can always recalibrate, pivot, hit the reset button on my focus and vibration. After all WE ARE MASTERS for Christmas’ Sake and that means EVERYONE! Not just us guys and gals who like to swath ourselves in The Knowing That The Teachings of Abe afford us! EVERYONE! Leave them to find their connection in their way and let’s tend to ours lovingly and with care!

You with me My Homies?

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My Darling… As I perusing my FB NewsFeed today, I happened across some photos of a couple of women we know who “tied the knot” in SF yesterday. To say that they looked transformed by their experience and love, is an understatement. The simple act of looking at the photos lit up my heart. And then I got to thinking, “Hmmm, a wedding?”

Well you and I have both been down that aisle before and had the perfect amount of love and contrast to set us on the trajectory, where we met and fell in love with each other. So marriage, at least in the traditional sense, isn’t something that either one of us feels compelled to do. But then I got to thinking, “Hmmm, but wouldn’t it be nice to show the world how much I Love, Loving Jason?”

And I realized that that was it, in a nut shell. I don’t want the experience of us taking vows, or musing over our love, as you and I My Delicious Darling, do this daily! And might I say we do it with aplomb, unabashedly, out loud and proud! We are ALWAYS praising what we have and pumping it up to be more, more, more. We are continuisouly watering our garden of love and planting new seeds of ideas and feelings. And, as a of bit of tongue in cheek humor, when I’m feeling particularly frisky, I do ask you, “Jason, Will You Marry Me?” And you always reply, without missing a beat, “Yes My Love!”

It’s not about being sure you love me, or getting the state involved in our life, or having a party, or me wearing some cool leather bustier and skirt slit sky high, with rad buckles and other ecoutrement, and kickin’ thigh high boots to our nuptials, although all of that would be madd fun! No it’s more, much more, than that.

It’s that I want to flaunt you, to show you off, to show off what we have first imagined to be possible, then aligned with that possibility, and then manifested; a righteous love affair that makes the angels weep and poets shake their heads for loss of words to convey a flowing and flowering of love on this, our own personal Loving Godhead of might and majesty.

I want to let the joyous news be spread that I will love you on into Eternity and Beyond! And I will continue to proliferate the love I have for myself, which is the fuel to your’s and my eternal flame. And I know you are doing the same. You see my Sexy Man, you understand that for that which is US to thrive, we must first pump up our individual volume, so that we can then coalesce our commensurate Vibrations to create a more loving, allowing, artful and creative relationship!

We say it often, “Our Love Has No Bounds.” And it’s True, Gloriously True, because we are constantly pushing out the boundaries of our lives to see more, feel more, play more, experience more, teach more, make love more, learn more, explore more, have more fun, co-create more, understand more, laugh more, dance more! In other words, more of everything good and sweet.

When we first met, I had a profound waking dream. It took my breath away with it’s “realness.” I have told you this dream before, but I want to share it here with you again today, because it expresses the magnitude and magnificence of these feelings that flow through me whenever I think of US….

You and I were in a Great Hall surrounded by our friends. I had decided to “come down to earth” before you, and I was feeling a hesitant about leaving behind all of my pals, and most especially, I was ambivalent about leaving you. When I crossed the threshold into that Grand Hall of Limitless Possibilities (which seemed like the last stop before – Bomb’s Away to Earth), you saw me and dropped to one knee, head bowed, as a King would do before his Queen. The sight of you in this position caught my heart in my throat. And then, you looked up at me with those eyes of yours and flowed love straight into my heart the likes of which I had never felt before and said, “My Darling, You go first, and I will follow soon after. And when I do, I WILL find you!”

And I knew in that instant, that you would indeed find me, and of course you did. And where of all places? On the dance floor, a more perfect scenario I couldn’t have designed for myself, but the funny part is, I did!

So My Darling unsurpassed lover of a man Jason, let this love letter be my vow to you, that I will love you like no other, for all the days that it is fun and feels good. And I look to you to do the same, as we boldly go where no human has gone before, into the deepest, most fecund valley where our Love lives and thrives! Warp Speed my Divine Darling, Warp Speed…~*

Life of alignment

Finding The Teachings of Abraham when my daughter Lily was in 1st grade was a win/win for both of us! I was always outta da box anyway, but Abe gave me the tools to sustain my groovy feelings and Allowed Me To Allow My Delightful Kid to flourish in her own, unique way!

When people ask me about parenting, my answer is succinct and never prevaricates, “First and foremost, DO YOU with aplomb! Show your kid what it’s like to be a righteous happy joyful fun interesting curious Creator on the leading edge.”

And then they say, “I asked about parenting and you told me about you.”

And my answer, “Haha, exactly!”

‘Cause what we know in Abe Land is the most effective parenting is teaching by YOUR example! The method of teaching with which most of us are familiar is one way and comes in the form of speeches, dictates, dictums, decrees, and directives and sounds like Charlie Brown’s teacher… blah blah blah ditty blah blah. And guess what? It never, never, never fucking worked.

Rather than a sermon or a soliloquy, show your kids that they have all the tools necessary to be, do, or have whatever they desire by you the parent, living the life of your dreams!

Start with your Alignment first Homies, and then the parenting literally takes care of itself, no fooling…~*

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