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20 odd years ago, my former husband Scott Davis and I quit our highfalutin jobs in Boston, bought a 45′ ketch and set sail for the horizon and beyond. The word extraordinary doesn’t even begin to explain our adventures. 

We shoved off for points unknown from our base in Newport, RI, sailed over to Bermuda and then blasted down to the Caribbean – checking out every island in the Eastern Caribbean Island Chain until we ran smack dab into South America – where our daughter Lily was conceived in the cool, green waters of Venezuela. 

I’m shopping now and Jimmy Buffet’s song, “Changes in Latitudes, Changes in Attitudes,” (see link below) came over the loud speakers, causing tears of joy to came cascading down my face. It opened my heart even more for Scott who I’m happy to say is still my friend, and brought to the fore the amazing adventures we have shared and the incredible daughter we still do. 

It is true that the lower the latitude, the higher the attitude, at least for this gal. And hearing the sailor’s sailor Jimmy Buffet croon about life at sea, brought me right back to that experience and made me realize that I so want to do it again. This time, with a daughter who is now born and thriving, and a lover Jason who defies description for his endless curiosity and daring – which are key ingredients when embarking on a sea going voyage. 

So Darling Friends of endless possibilities, here’s to us, The Seekers, The Creators, The Adventurers in this ever expanding life’s journey. In this moment of pure bliss, my love knows no bounds for you, for me, and for the calling of the sea~

Changes in Attitude, Changes in Latitude


Abraham says, “Get out of bed on the right Vibration.”

Great idea Abe, but how does a Conscious, Deliberate Creator do that? So glad you asked… Begin by Appreciating before your eyes even open; your comfy bed, the day ahead, your relaxed body, your delicious sleep state, the sexy human and/or warm animal beside you, etc.

And then, meditate for 15 minutes to consciously align with your Vortex and Inner Being. I LOVE Abraham’s 15 minute meditations which prompt me to breath deeply and allow me to Fall Up Into My Vortex seamlessly and with ease. Click here for Abraham-Hicks Guided Meditation.

And finally, cap it all off by writing lists of appreciation, or focus wheels, or love letters to humans and /or your non-physical posse; which all serves to prolong your time in communication with your Inner Being and Alignment. Thereby establishing a deeper, firmer Vibrational Beachhead from which to blastoff into your day.

That’s it, and all it takes is one half hour of your time (as Abraham says, “15 minutes of visualization is more productive than 16 hours of hard labor!”) And now you have a juicy, high vibing foundation from which to launch into the waiting day. I do it every single morning, it’s akin to brushing my teeth and it makes ALL the difference in the world. But don’t take my word for it, give it a whirl and get ready Creator, your Life is going to upgrade right before your very eyes! Haha! Just sayin’…~*


Creator… Did you know that when you can celebrate another’s Success, you are actually celebrating and accelerating your own? That’s right. When you can seamlessly shout “Atta Boy,” or “Atta Girl,” without even a hint of resistance, then you are literally congratulating yourself, buoying yourself, taking yourself to new heights, and Allowing Like A Boss!

Allowing does not need to be a Passive State, it can be found in a myriad of our more energetic and flowing activities, Appreciation being a fine example. When you Appreciate another’s victories and cease the petty bullshit of judgement and intolerance and rather, open your heart and arms to all the genius that surrounds you, Then and Only Then do you OPEN YOURSELF To Flow the Energy That Creates Worlds, like The God You Are! 

And if I haven’t convinced you yet, then grok this… Championing another’s efforts is at its base self-serving as we are in actuality turning that loving energy onto ourselves! Haha! It’s the boomerang effect in earnest. 

You and I are Lovers, that is the Core of who we are and how we flow. If you want to feel Successful yourself, and we Abers have our own definition of that state of being… Success is Absolutely the amount of Joy You Feel, then it is imperative that you embrace the whole enchilada of this life’s experience and a huge part of that is Advocating and Endorsing Others’ efforts, life experiences, manifestations, and successes!! 

I don’t know about you, but I didn’t come down here to this blue ball of Fecundity and Fun to half-ass it! I came to blow the lid off and Create and Flow like the God I am. And in order for me to do that, a Key Ingredient is Feeling As Good about Your Achievements as I do my own! 

I’m off now to Co-Create, Appreciate, and Advocate all the Triumphs and Successes that I see around me. And Why is that? Because Dear, Darling, Delicious Creator, When One of Our Tribe Thrives, So Do We All! 

Up, Up, and Away…😎~*

chill out homies
Creator, I had a delicious thought I wanted to share with you. A few days ago a lovely man I know posted a tribute to his and his wife’s relationship. It began by praising their ability to love each other, to communicate effectively, etc. And then, dum de dum dum, it nose dived by adding a whole section that began with “despite our horrible childhood experiences, etc.” haha!
 
Only Abers would find this type of detour from great to awful amusing! Right? Damn I love us, but I digress!
 
Rather than go deep into the wobble, I chose to stop reading and bask in the first paragraph of praise and love. I left it there, that is until I saw this charming man and his equally lovely wife the other evening.
 
When I saw them and remembered the post, it hit me!! Bamn! It’s not “We’re doing well DESPITE our despicable childhood experience!” No No No, that’s all wrong! Rather, it is BECAUSE OF OUR CRAZY ASS UPBRINGING that we are Doing Well. We’re Thriving BECAUSE our childhood mostly sucked! It’s Thanks to our parent’s f’d up way of parenting that we created more Rockets of Desire to burst forth. It’s The Gift of NOT BEING GOTTEN, that has given us a Vortex brimming with our Dreams and Desires. It’s The Benefit of trying to squeeze our Eternal, Expansive Selves into Society’s square hole, that steered us right into the Loving Arms and Wisdom of The Teachings of Abe and Our Inner Beings! And really, is not that THE Greatest Gift of All?
 
So thank you Parents! Thank You Nuns! Thank you Rules and Regulations. Thank You boarding school! Thank you overbearing, boring, tedious teachers and school systems. Thank you less than stellar boyfriends. Thank you Friendships that didn’t end well. Jobs that were lifeless. Conversations that were banal. Lovers that didn’t Love. Sex that down right sucked! Overbearing bosses! Pets that died! Parents that died! Friends that died! Because you know what? All of it! All of it! All of it, was the grand catalyst for my exponential Asking, Expansion, and Growth.
 
It feels good to Appreciate broadly! To Allow fully. To Know completely that all of it is groovy cool! Never look back! No regrets! No blame! No shame! No victims, only Victors! Yup, that’s how we roll here, on This, THE MOST RIGHTEOUS LEADING-FUCKING-EDGE OF THOUGHT IN THE WHOLE DARN UNIVERSE! Over and out…😎~*

edmund-tarbell-girl-writingI just finished listening to the video included below, which answered An Asking I have had for some time about getting on a better vibrational footing around and with my former husband. In the recap, Abraham was speaking about how we put people we no longer want to be with (especially past lovers, husbands, wives etc.) into the Ex Category. I have never referred to Scott, my former husband, as my ex, because it never felt good. And knowing what I Know, when you attempt to EX-Out anything, it only causes it to remain more firmly in a funky feeling vibration. This has been a wanting of mine for a time, in that I desire all of my relationships, past and present, to shine vibrationally and I find that when I am around Scott, I feel a bit off. So Abe to the rescue!!

They’re suggestion to us is that we take all of those that we no longer are married too or dating, but might still harbor a wee resentment toward or feel an awkwardness around, and put them into a Pile of Appreciation.

I have transcribed this wee excerpt, because I wanted to herald it for myself and I have addressed it to my former husband the father of our daughter, Lily…

Dear Former Husband…

“You were there when I needed you. You were a vibrational match to that which I was. You were part of the contrast that helped me to identify what I want. My present and future experience is what it was because of my relationship with you. It was never your job to be a specific way so that I could feel better. We all were doing the best that we knew how to do as we went along the way. I love the fact that we had this relationship and I believe we will always have a relationship. And from now on. I am not going to let my thoughts about you, hurt my feelings anymore. I’M NO LONGER GOING TO DISRESPECT MYSELF BY TWISTING MY THOUGHTS ABOUT YOU AND MAKING MYSELF FEEL BAD ABOUT THEM!” (My favorite part, hence the caps!)

Wow! Right?! Feels so darn good. Off I go to play around in this juicy new Vibration I just created! This is what being a Deliberate Creatrix Feels Like!! Aligned and Allowing! All for one and one for all! Tally Ho Homies…~*

Einstein Quote of treating everyone the same

My father Clyde came to mind when I read this delightful quote. Everyone he met was his friend, and it was especially true when it came to the service industry. His appreciation of their attention showed by his tipping largesse and turning his winning smile on them. Wherever we went, folks bent over backwards to accommodate his every need!

When I was a kid, one of my favorite memories is of us walking into the lobby of Hotel Le Meurice in Paris. The entire staff lit up when he crossed the threshold; calling out his name, hand shakes, hugs, and merry smiles all around. The elevator operator even shut down the elevator to attend to Clyde’s first request upon landing anywhere – ice for his cocktails! Haha!

One day, when we were living in Florida, the doorbell rang. When I answered it, the fellow standing on the threshold introduced himself and followed it up with, “I’m a bartender at The Men’s Bar of The Biltmore in New York. Clyde always told me that if I was ever in Florida to look him up!”

Clyde came striding around the corner, right arm and hand extended in friendship! “Harry,” he said, “Good to see you! Come on in and have a drink!”

Yup that was my old man! A winner through and through…~*

They say that money can't buy you happiness

Creator, Do You know why I Laughed Out Loud when I read this quote? Because WE in Abe Land KNOW that “being broke” is a TEMPORARY State of Mind of “Not Enough-ness,’ not a permanent condition. And WE KNOW that this sorry-ass state of feeling lack can be turned on its head in a nanosecond, simply by turning our attention to anything that feels good.

When We focus on what feels good, that positive energy engenders, propagates, calls out for a feeling of ABUNDANCE to come and play with us! That’s right, feeling good about ANYTHING – could be something as seemingly small as your new nail color, your first sip of coffee, your cat purring in your lap, hearing your kid laugh from the other room and allowing it to light up your heart, seeing a groovy vid on FB and sharing it with your pals – puts you in an Upleveled State of Feeling Abundant which colors Each and Every Aspect of Your Life! You don’t have to be specific about what you want Abundance in, just Go General and allow LOA to color in all the details and how-to’s for you!

Start speaking about What Does Work, What Does Feel Good, and leave the driving to The Universe. And then watch out Creator, you’re not going to believe how fast your life will turn into manifestations of such Clarity, Abundance and Love that it will take your breath away! PROMISE…~*

Pharaoh and his queen

My Darling… As I perusing my FB NewsFeed today, I happened across some photos of a couple of women we know who “tied the knot” in SF yesterday. To say that they looked transformed by their experience and love, is an understatement. The simple act of looking at the photos lit up my heart. And then I got to thinking, “Hmmm, a wedding?”

Well you and I have both been down that aisle before and had the perfect amount of love and contrast to set us on the trajectory, where we met and fell in love with each other. So marriage, at least in the traditional sense, isn’t something that either one of us feels compelled to do. But then I got to thinking, “Hmmm, but wouldn’t it be nice to show the world how much I Love, Loving Jason?”

And I realized that that was it, in a nut shell. I don’t want the experience of us taking vows, or musing over our love, as you and I My Delicious Darling, do this daily! And might I say we do it with aplomb, unabashedly, out loud and proud! We are ALWAYS praising what we have and pumping it up to be more, more, more. We are continuisouly watering our garden of love and planting new seeds of ideas and feelings. And, as a of bit of tongue in cheek humor, when I’m feeling particularly frisky, I do ask you, “Jason, Will You Marry Me?” And you always reply, without missing a beat, “Yes My Love!”

It’s not about being sure you love me, or getting the state involved in our life, or having a party, or me wearing some cool leather bustier and skirt slit sky high, with rad buckles and other ecoutrement, and kickin’ thigh high boots to our nuptials, although all of that would be madd fun! No it’s more, much more, than that.

It’s that I want to flaunt you, to show you off, to show off what we have first imagined to be possible, then aligned with that possibility, and then manifested; a righteous love affair that makes the angels weep and poets shake their heads for loss of words to convey a flowing and flowering of love on this, our own personal Loving Godhead of might and majesty.

I want to let the joyous news be spread that I will love you on into Eternity and Beyond! And I will continue to proliferate the love I have for myself, which is the fuel to your’s and my eternal flame. And I know you are doing the same. You see my Sexy Man, you understand that for that which is US to thrive, we must first pump up our individual volume, so that we can then coalesce our commensurate Vibrations to create a more loving, allowing, artful and creative relationship!

We say it often, “Our Love Has No Bounds.” And it’s True, Gloriously True, because we are constantly pushing out the boundaries of our lives to see more, feel more, play more, experience more, teach more, make love more, learn more, explore more, have more fun, co-create more, understand more, laugh more, dance more! In other words, more of everything good and sweet.

When we first met, I had a profound waking dream. It took my breath away with it’s “realness.” I have told you this dream before, but I want to share it here with you again today, because it expresses the magnitude and magnificence of these feelings that flow through me whenever I think of US….

You and I were in a Great Hall surrounded by our friends. I had decided to “come down to earth” before you, and I was feeling a hesitant about leaving behind all of my pals, and most especially, I was ambivalent about leaving you. When I crossed the threshold into that Grand Hall of Limitless Possibilities (which seemed like the last stop before – Bomb’s Away to Earth), you saw me and dropped to one knee, head bowed, as a King would do before his Queen. The sight of you in this position caught my heart in my throat. And then, you looked up at me with those eyes of yours and flowed love straight into my heart the likes of which I had never felt before and said, “My Darling, You go first, and I will follow soon after. And when I do, I WILL find you!”

And I knew in that instant, that you would indeed find me, and of course you did. And where of all places? On the dance floor, a more perfect scenario I couldn’t have designed for myself, but the funny part is, I did!

So My Darling unsurpassed lover of a man Jason, let this love letter be my vow to you, that I will love you like no other, for all the days that it is fun and feels good. And I look to you to do the same, as we boldly go where no human has gone before, into the deepest, most fecund valley where our Love lives and thrives! Warp Speed my Divine Darling, Warp Speed…~*

Even when the clouds are dark...

Don’t you just love living in the bosom of Positivity Creator? Where there is always another angle to view anything and everything that comes into your life? Where you have multiple choices of how to Perceive? Where nothing, nothing, nothing is Said and Done unless we, Creator, pronounce it to so. Where you can change the angle of your worldwide viewing stand in the blink of an eye, all with a simple shift of focus. Where Hope is always available. Where the control of our Feelings resides firmly within our grasp. Where pigs fly and the cows come home!! Yes! It’s called Abe Land and there is no other place I’d rather Be…~*

humphrey bogart

The intonation of my father Clyde’s speech and character were infused with the essence of two distinctive worlds: part old school New Yorker and part shipyard worker. Clyde was born, bred and raised in a powerful family in Brooklyn, New York. As a kid and under an alias, he had worked the docks of the shipyard that his grandfather founded, so that he might learn about the business and become friends with the men, without their being aware of his family connections.

He was 6’2” tall, barrel chested, and had the posture of a marine, although he was never in the armed forces. He was a Man’s Man, brimming with self-confidence and at total and complete ease in his skin. He was powerful, generous, open, curious, spontaneous, witty, gregarious and all with his de rigeur cigar planted firmly between his teeth. His DNA reeked of being a New Yorker; bold, brash, the best of the best, although without being cocky. He was King of all he surveyed and everyone wanted to bask in the umbra of his magnanimity; the women all wanted to sleep with him and the men wanted to be his best friend.

He wasn’t classically handsome rather, he had a strong resemblance to Humphrey Bogart, which only added to his appeal. He exuded the good breeding and manners that one would expect of a millionaire’s grandson coupled with street smarts: cunning and smooth. He was a man who had never smelled fear or defeat and was sure of his place in this world… front row center.

Clyde had a plethora of sayings that peppered his speech. There were the ones that came straight from the docks, my all time favorite being, “I wouldn’t piss on his leg if it was on fire!”

And some that could be categorized as truisms, describing life as he saw and lived it. One in particular has played a large part in my life and is the catalyst behind this story,

“Walk in like you own the place kid, and no one will stop you!”

I have conjured up this phrase and used it to cross thresholds into unknown situations, board rooms, parties, job interviews, negotiations, anything that required that I take the next step armed with the self-confidence of The Gods. I have pulled it out in storms when I needed a boost and in calm seas, when I was formulating a plan to do it “My Way,” and wouldn’t take no for an answer. It is my suit of armor although it is not constricting, rather its essence is one of absolute freedom of thought, word and deed. Of standing in my Power and owning it, not with bravado or flashiness, but with the kind of style that oozes from the inside out and cannot be forged.

I have been thinking a lot about Clyde lately and in particular about the ramifications and positivity of the phrase, “Walk in like you own the place kid.” I have been appreciating his unusual parenting style as he took me to places and introduced me to people who dwell and thrive “way-oh-way” outside of the mainstream. He opened my eyes, mind and heart to the whole world, not just the class that breaths rarified air, but all the stratas of air that are available for us to sample, while appreciating the gifts that each offers.

As I type my thoughts, I am feeling a tremendous amount of pride and love surging forth from Clyde in his non-physical playground. The headiness of his love is mingling with the love, admiration and appreciation that I feel for myself. I have lived what one friend described as “a very big life.” Big in emotion, big in adventure, big in never following the rules but rather, heeding the call of my “True North,” no matter the consequences. I have never blended, which come to find out is a blessing. I used to think otherwise, looking at those folks who seemed so at home in “normal.” Who had their lives mapped out from childhood, who didn’t make waves. But hell, what fun is there in that? After all, we didn’t come here to blend, to regurgitate, to vacillate, to legislate, to obfuscate, to stand outside of our “true nature” and allow for anything less. We came to boldly and confidently stride forth, to Create from the lofty perch of our unique vantage point. In short, we came to

“Walk This Earth Like We Own The Place!” 

And when we do, when we are true to our intentions, our passions, our desires, there isn’t one person or a million, who can distract or dissuade us from our heading of True North. This stance of Being In Our Power feels like we are breathing rarified air, but in this case, it’s the air of Our Personal, Singular Strata of Knowing and Intention. Now I ask you Creator, what is sexier than that?

I must be off now, to stride forth on this earth, like I own the place. To plant my flag on each spot that my feet touch, my mind reaches, my hands caress, my lips kiss. To take ownership of each unique experience, in its fullest and most complete capacity. To firmly, eternally, and unabashedly embrace my place in the unfolding and artful becoming of this, my precious life…~*

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